Just because you’ve forgotten doesn’t mean you’re forgiven

Gandhi once said, “Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.” I agree because it takes a tremendous amount of courage to move on from a painful experience inflicted on you by someone else. Trust me, it is something that’s very complicated and often difficult to achieve. As a youngster, I was blessed to have experienced the state of anger, resentment, … Read More

Playing your own game

Just the other day when I was going for a morning stroll along Tamaki Drive, I was stopped by a patient that I did not recognise. She mentioned how much my weekly blog has helped her changed her mindset towards life to a more optimistic one. On one hand, I’m very happy that people resonate with my thoughts and understanding … Read More

How I deal with fear, anxiety, and catastrophising thinking

I received a number of great responses from many of you last week about my last article “Living in a bad dream”. If you haven’t read it, you can access it by clicking (here). Whenever I get an email response from one of my readers, I like to reply to them as often as I can. Some of you have … Read More

How I deal with fear, anxiety, and catastrophising thinking

I received a number of great responses from many of you last week about my last article “Living in a bad dream”. If you haven’t read it, you can access it by clicking (here). Whenever I get an email response from one of my readers, I like to reply to them as often as I can. Some of you have … Read More

Living in a bad dream

Have you ever experienced waking up from a really bad dream but then realised the reality is just as bad? I’ve had a few of these in the past week. However, I have to admit that the reality is far from miserable compared to the dream I had. I was talking to a friend over the weekend and it seems … Read More

Living in a bad dream

Have you ever experienced waking up from a really bad dream but then realised the reality is just as bad? I’ve had a few of these in the past week. However, I have to admit that the reality is far from miserable compared to the dream I had. I was talking to a friend over the weekend and it seems … Read More

Looking after your mental wellbeing during the COIVD-19 Lockdown

I went for a morning stroll this morning down at the St Heliers Bay on the first day of our week-long level 3 lockdown. As I was ordering coffee from our usual favourite spot (Jack’s Coffee), I overheard conversations from multiple groups of people who were waiting in line for their morning dose of caffeine. The general feeling was that … Read More

Lessons from the young and the old

One of my favourite pastimes is to watch people. Observing people, studying how they interact and respond to others’ behaviour is fascinating. The number of things that you can learn from simply observing others is quite astonishing.  My ability to read and understand people is a skill set that I have acquired and developed from my years of listening, talking, … Read More

How to deal with a significant medical diagnosis?

There is no doubt that we all know life is full of suffering. One of the hardest things we all have to bear in life is the concept of “loss”. Sooner or later, we all will have to bear some form of loss. Whether it’s losing our loved ones, losing our health, or losing materialistic things, we are in a … Read More

What the terminally ill can teach us

Strangely enough, people can thrive in the face of death. Being a pharmacist and have a foot in palliative care, I’ve seen many deaths and it is not an easy job. So, I have extreme admiration for palliative nurses. That’s a hard job to be doing because you are caring for patients that are in their last days or hours … Read More